Lately, there have been a few instances where I’ve been told that if I want to be truly dominant, I have to do x, y, and z. I have to lock his dick up, I have to make him eat his cum, I have to piss on him or dress him in lacy panties. There are apparently a whole fucking set of things I have to do that I’m not the least bit interested in doing if I want to be a “proper” domme.
All I can say to this is:
Don’t fucking tell me what to do. I have spent far too many years fucking the way other people said I should fuck to be the least bit amused by other fucking dommes (or subs, for that matter) telling me I have to fuck a certain way to be dominant.
As far as I’m concerned, being dominant is about fucking and behaving the way I like. Taking what I want from the man who wants to give it to me. And that’s pretty much it. Shut your fucking mouths about what I should and shouldn’t do.
“If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather. Try to understand the blackness, lethargy, hopelessness, and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest and best things you will ever do.”—Stephen Fry (via theladyofthorns)